Playing Together: 5 Ways to Play With a Purpose
By: Kathryn Wright, OTR/L
It can feel challenging to stop and play in a climate of ‘perfect’ social media parenting and competitive kindergarten applications, but I am here to encourage you that play is your most powerful tool. Here are five helpful tips to help you get down and starting playing with a purpose:
- Keep it simple!
Board games, video games, and complex imaginary play schemes are fun and have their place, but starting simple with play that relies on your body is the easiest place to start. For toddler and preschool aged children act silly, play peek-a-boo, sing and dance, or fall down. For elementary aged children, play a copy me game, pretend to be animals, invite them to give you a character. Sounds, emotions, and movement are key to providing children the skills necessary for problem solving, creative thinking, and communication!
- Follow their lead!
“Come on, let’s play! Hmmmm, what should we do?” It’s as simple as that! Are you elephants one minute and cooking a birthday cake the next? Perfect! Try to narrate and talk through how you got to this point! “Are they elephants baking for the lion’s birthday? I wonder if he likes chocolate?” If you notice ideas moving too quickly or your child has difficulty starting or stating ideas, provide some choices that align with their initial thought, problem solve together, and find some common ground.
- Stop Talking!
Get comfortable with it being quiet. Make noises and relate to emotions and try to only talk in response to your child’s words or actions. Try to stop asking your child questions you already know the answer to in order to spark true creativity. No more asking “What’s this animal?” “What color is this?” “This one starts with what letter?” – instead asking “I wonder if he’s hungry?” “Do you think purple grapes are yummy?” “Where are we heading?”. See if you can play for 15 minutes while pretending or imagining but not saying a word only growling, or laughing, or squeaking- your child will likely impress you with their innovation and creativity!
- Relate and Feel Big (Don’t be embarrassed)!
Feel big feelings and use your words and face. Be sad, tell them, pretend to cry and ask for a hug or some deep breaths (ask older kids for what you can do). Be angry and stop or fall to the floor. Be surprised and have to catch your breath. The more we play with our emotions the more we feel empowered to tackle them in real life. Remember, don’t be embarrassed!
- Have fun!
If you’re worried about what to say next, if they’re learning enough, or if you’re playing right, your child will notice. Try to relax and dive deep into an imaginary world with your child- there’s no other place where only the two (or three, or four) of you exist! Set a timer and forget about the responsibilities for a while- dinner can wait!
You and your child can learn, bond, and grow together through play and with these tools you can be sure that they are developing essential skills for independence without the flashcards, screens, or quizzes. Remember, all play is okay and play is the primary way children learn, develop, and grow!
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